How old are you?

No!! I’m not talking about the number of years you’ve lived on earth. I’m talking about the number of years you have been in Christ.

Months ago, I was thinking about how I’m turning 22 at the end of the year and how I have to start getting used to this adulting thing. 22 isn’t child’s play you know! I can’t say I’m 22 and still be sucking milk from my mum’s breast or expecting her to feed me. As I was thinking this, God made me realize that the same applies to my Spiritual age. I cannot be 23 years strong in the Lord and still be feeding on milk, whining every time there’s a challenge like a baby or rebelling like a teenager. I should act like the youth that I am.

When I was an infant at my mother’s breast, I gurgled and cooed like any infant. When I grew up, I left those infant ways for good. (1 Corinthians 13:11 MSG)

Cornelius Lindsey said something similar when he came to Nigeria in February. He stated that growing up is mandatory but maturity is optional. There are old fools just as there are old men so full of wisdom. It’s the exact same thing with your spiritual life. You can be 32 years old and a 2 years old is more mature than you.

Sometimes I just sit and marvel at how some Christians grow so much and do so much in just the 3-5 years they have been in Christ. Their growth is evident. On the other hand, I know some Christians that are sad because they are not growing as fast. DO NOT LET ANYONE GUILT TRIP YOU INTO THINKING YOU’RE GROWING TOO SLOW OR TOO FAST. We are all working out our salvation with fear and trembling. Only those that are led by the Spirit are the sons of God. If the Spirit is not leading you to do a certain thing, it is not your business to be doing it and if the Spirit tells you to partake in a certain thing, please feel free to enter into the thing in style.

One last thing, I’ve realized that the longer you stay in Christ, the more likely you feel like one of the 99 that God left behind when He was going in search of the one. I felt this way really recently and it’s a really terrible feeling. I felt like God had seen me finish and was no longer excited that I was no longer of the world and basically He did not care much. This left me overwhelmed. I couldn’t read my bible as I couldn’t concentrate. I even avoided church because my mind kept wandering so what was the point? All I could do was play worship music non-stop. That was the piece of thread that kept me connected to God.

God’s loyal love couldn’t have run out,
his merciful love couldn’t have dried up.
They’re created new every morning.
How great your faithfulness!
I’m sticking with God (I say it over and over).
He’s all I’ve got left.
Lamentations 3:22-24 (MSG)

The popular hymn that has the verse above played one morning as I was jamming and I realized that feeling like God did not love me was a lie from the devil. The plot twist about God leaving the 99 to find the one that got missing is that God is omnipresent. He is everywhere at the same time. Yes, it is important to Him and He is joyful when a new person is added to the believers family but He will never leave you nor forsake you. Each day, we carry our crosses or die to self and it excites God all over again. You are loved my darling. You are so loved. Do not let the devil tell you otherwise.

Be strong. Take courage. Don’t be intimidated. Don’t give them a second thought because God, your God, is striding ahead of you. He’s right there with you. He won’t let you down; he won’t leave you. Deuteronomy 31:6 MSG

So now I live with the confidence that there is nothing in the universe with the power to separate us from God’s love. I’m convinced that his love will triumph over death, life’s troubles,[a] fallen angels, or dark rulers in the heavens. There is nothing in our present or future circumstances that can weaken his love. There is no power above us or beneath us—no power that could ever be found in the universe that can distance us from God’s passionate love, which is lavished upon us through our Lord Jesus, the Anointed One! Romans 8:38-39 The Passion Translation

The way to get out of feeling this way is to go to God in prayer. Just tell Him how you feel. He will speak back to you. William McDowell’sFalling on my knees and the “What a friend we have in Jesus” Hymn could not have said it better. Suicide is not the answer guys. Go to God is prayer.

The lyrics to William McDowell’s song are below

Falling on my knees,
I bow,
Bow down,
[ x6 ]

Something’s I can’t see,
until I bow,
[ x4 ]

I can see clearly now
Here on my knees
[ x3 ]

I understand better
Here on my knees
[ x4 ]

I’ll put the lyrics to the “Steadfast Love of the Lord Never Ceases” and “What a friend we have in Jesus” Hymns in another post.

That’s all for now. Byeee!


Notes to my younger myself

Hi babygirl,

In life, you have to know what you want but then that is a process so don’t beat yourself up if you don’t know yet.

God is the creator and He knows why He created you so I suggest take some time out to get guidance from Him. It’s something so little yet so key because the truth is His will would always be done so it’s better to know what it is and walk in it instead of going round in circles and still coming back to it.

I know that one is most sensitive to the voice of God during a fast so that would be my advice, even though you might not get the answer immediately. It could take a while. Try the Daniel fast sometime.

While you’re fasting though dabble into different things here and there and find mentors or read about people that have succeeded in the fields you want to go into. God has given you the skill to do all sorts of things.

Don’t be idle!! An idle mind is the devil’s workshop.

Don’t be shy to ask for advice from older people and don’t be scared to work for free too. You’re in the building stage of your life so anything that will add value, please do.

As you’re being sensitive to the Holy Spirit be sensitive to your environment. Look for problems and try to find solutions to them.

Bind and cast the spirit of laziness and procrastination because they are the worst.

If you fail at anything, do not beat yourself up or sulk or mourn. Hurry and get up so that you can try the next thing. A failure is a step closer to a breakthrough. At least you’ve learnt what you should not do or how you should not go about a thing.

Just because you think you like him/her does not mean they’re good for you. Test all likes!!

Don’t rush into things without knowing exactly what you’re getting into.

Do not choose a partner based on how he relates with you friends’ partners. He is probably not God’s choice for you.

Do not think you will marry him just because he loves God. Not every man of God is your husband.

Do not worry, you will eventually meet your husband. Just make sure you have heard properly from God first.

You will never know how to love your partner if you do not love God. You find out that your love for him increases from loving God. I just understood this today so do not beat yourself up if you do not understand.

Never lie to your parents. NEVER!! You will regret it.

“A man can receive nothing unless it is given to him from Heaven” – John 3:27. Everything you have was given to you by God so feel free to ask Him for the user’s manual.

Everything will work out for your good because you love God and are called according to His purpose. Do not forget the reason everything will work out for your good!! You have to love God and walk in the purpose He has for you. Don’t worry if you don’t know your purpose yet, you will eventually (and you will love it). However you only find out from spending time with God.

You will realize that all you’re going to go through is preparing you for your purpose.

Always show love to others Don’t be scared to go above and beyond. Show love even if, in fact, especially if you know it won’t be reciprocated. It is a good feeling.

Read a lot my dear.

Use your time wisely.

Sleep less.

You will have very good taste in music eventually.

Never compromise on your standards, they are not too high.

You must decrease for God to increase. Do not hold on to yourself. What does it profit a man if he gains the whole world but loses his soul.

You will find a church that excites you to go to church on Sundays.

Speak declarations over your life (including your husband and children babycakes). This is what Jesus meant when He said you should have faith as little as a mustard seed. When you speak the words God has revealed to you over your life, you do not fret or have panic attacks (ahh you will have these) when hard times come because you have spoken and believe the word of God concerning you (in other words, you have faith).

You are  fearfully, wonderfully and perfectly made. You will eventually see it. Just wait.

God is worthy to lean on. Trust in the Lord with all you heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your path.

You are nothing without God. So do not leave Him.

God’s strength is made known in your weakness. You won’t always have it all figured out or you might not be able to handle all of it. That is when God comes in.

Let your light shine so bright that others see the good work in you and glorify your father in Heaven. This should be your mantra.

Learn to save.

Always give your first fruit to God, not because it is a law, but because you want to. First fruit of your day, income, everything.

You are loved by God, your family, friends, even strangers will love you.

Do not be afraid of man who can kill only body but fear God that can kill both body and soul.

Sometimes you will feel your fire for God burning out, when that happens, come back to read this or anyone of the previous posts or the book of acts.

Drink a lot of water.

Don’t joke with your health.

Never stop improving yourself.

Have a gentle and quiet spirit (Lam 3:27-28).

Don’t let what people say about you get to you, especially if it is not true. Only God’s thoughts towards you matters.

The Holy Spirit is your best friend boo.

Don’t get bored of reading your bible.

Most finally, NEVER STOP LAUGHING!! Life is not that hard.

I love you so much my darling, which is why I am writing this. You’re amazing.


Sooo, Barca won the El-Classico yesterday. My sister is on top of the world now I’m sure. I’m a forever Madrid fan however so bleehhhh. I don’t care if they have not been their best lately because I’m ride or die!! Anyways I’m Barc (hence the title of this post), I don’t know for how long though but there’s a new post so I’m back!!!

What have I been up to? I’ve been a dead babe. I actually cannot point out anything that I have achieved in the past few months. I have tried so hard to balance every area of my life and have failed woofully. I ended up not giving any area enough time and so it was a major flop. I’ve been the definition of Jack of all trades master of none. I have learnt though, that sacrifices have to be made in order to be successful. So if I want to be a good daughter and do chores, I have to sacrifice sleep. If I want to be a better employee, I have to work later hours sometimes and do professional exams and if I want to pass professional exams I have to spend less time with friends but I can make it up to them when I pass and my salary increases 😭😭. So yes sacrifices have to be made in life. It’s just up to you to prioritize and choose what you’re sacrificing.

This post is actually a song of the week, but I have to give a background story first (permit me please). The first time I heard this song happened to be the time in my life when I was the loneliest but experienced love like I had never experienced before. The love of God is real guys!! So I finished secondary school and found out I was fighting with my mum a lot which was weird because my mum and I are bffs (unless it comes to boy matters). Sha we fought a whole lot and I later found out the family was in debt that was why. My extravagant ideas for graduation could not be afforded and she didn’t know how to tell me that was the reason why. Basically it was a tough year/couple of years for us and there was no one to talk to except family because no one could understand. I have learnt this year not to be apologetic that I am living a good life but to just thank God that He has been good to me. A lot of times, the things “rich” people see as problems are “poor” people’s realities and they get called ungrateful that they see these things as problems. I really do not agree with that line of thought. You cannot blame someone for having lived a good life (unless their source of wealth is not pure). Anyways, that was a point in my life where i felt lonely. I did not get admission into the university immediately because plans had to change so I stopped talking to a lot of friends from school and I felt like I was being left behind so I generally just kept to myself. Someone even told me he heard a rumor that I failed WAEC that was why I became lowkey. Hard time mehn!!! The point is that it was a bad time in my life, I stopped talking to friends but I drew closer to God and experienced love from Him in ways I could not imagine and to appreciate Him, I signed up to sing for the yearly concert at church and this week’s song of the week was the opening song. When you experience God’s love, you do things for God not because you have to but because you want to. My family and I are good now BTW, thank you for asking.

I have been feeling lonely again since my birthday earlier this month. I’m the only corp member at work, the only female in my department, I do not really have friends in church because I switched churches, the only one of my university classmates writing my proffession’s professional exam with the American body. I started projecting and at home, I felt I was failing as a daughter (I did not feel I was doing enough for my parents). I haven’t gotten to church early in weeks because I did not want to be “alone” so I try to stall as much as possible and sometimes I don’t even go. I do not go for lunch a lot at work anymore because I do not want to sit alone. All these things were happening around me and I had no one to tell and I felt so lonely. I had mastered being alone so much that people called me coded. Now I had mastered not being alone so much that I had become scared of loneliness. This life!! Today, the ushering department that I have wanted to join since forever asked for new members and I did not sign up because I felt it will just be another journey alone and I walked out. This was when I knew this was a serious something. Loneliness stopping me from serving God? Mbanu!! 

I had a talk with myself in the car before driving out about how stupid it was to be back to this scared of loneliness stage and I got home ready to trash out the issue with God. I used to be so good at being alone that I called myself the mystery girl and now I was avoiding it. Anyways, I put on my laptop to play music to get me in the zone and this song came up and I couldn’t help but smile. That time was such a great time in my life when I realized that Jesus is all I need. It is true what Nathaniel Bassey and Pastor Poju preached a while ago that we are weary and downcast because we have forgotten. We worry about tomorrow because we have forgotten that it was God that took care of today when we were still in yesterday. If you have not taken anything out of this story, remember that Jesus is all you need. I have realized that the lonely feeling does not mean that I am locked away from the world, It just means I am abiding under the shadow of the Almighty. God is my safe place so I am not shut out of the world, I am just with Him because He is the only one that understands or can relate so instead of standing by the gate and feeling trapped, I will just sit with him and discuss everything I am feeling and let Him help me. He is all knowing anyways…

The title of the song is Kuse by  Psalmos ft Kore. You an download the song here. The lyrics are below.

Mo wo waju mi mo ri owo yin
Mo wo eyin wo mo ri ife yin
Won wa bere lo wo mi pe bawo ni mo se se
Mo so fun won wipe eeeeee

(Emi na ko o olorun oba ma ni
Olo run oba ma ni
Olorun oba ma ni) 2x

(Moni baba kan oo
Moni baba kan ooo
Baba ara to mo iyi omo) 6x

Oluwa ku ise
Ehhh ehhhh ehhhh
Ku isee…
Ehhh ehhhh ehhhh
Ku isee…
Oluwa ku ise oooo
Ehhh ehhhh ehhhh
Ku isee…

Oni ko bi o su bu mo ro bi oo (elo o se ye)
Eterete ooo baba ku ise…(elelele jare bio ) 3x

(Oluwa ku ise
Iba mi ku ise) 2x
Ku ise 5x

Oni ko bi o su bu mo ro bi oo
Eterete ooo baba ku ise) 3x

Mo de wa so pe
Ni mo de wa so pe oo) 2x

O ni kan she lo ore ire bo…
Orun bi o ni…
Emi kan se lore iwo nbo…
Mo de ya so pe oooo ehhh.

Eyin bi olode o ba ku
Oju ide re kin ru ikoriko
Ko sa aseyin olubori
Ato fi arati bi oke
Ti emi
A le mi no emi
Ti mo fi goke odo afara tanja
Ara efi oju ire wo mi
Eniya efi owo anu kan mi
Emi na ko..
Eledumare ni
Olorun mi ahhh
Baba mi
Ogba gba ti gba alara ilara
Oba aa ji ki
Oba aa ji rii
Ehhh eyin
Ehhh beeee

Oni ko bi o su bu mo ro bi oo
Eterete ooo baba ku ise

Oni kan wi o subu (maro guro ehhh)3x

I have missed you guys so much and I plan to use these few days of holiday (since my company does not close for Christmas) to post a lot of things. Over to you now. Do you ever feel lonely? Or have you ever felt lonely? What do/did you do to overcome it?

P.S. Did you see that I kept my word and came back with a #CCC? I think I deserve a Christmas gift for this. Or a late birthday gift. What do you think?

The “Nobody did it for me” syndrome

This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers and sisters (1 John 3:16).

Hi again!! I’m taking my life and blogging seriously now so I’m trying to be more consistent. I have a schedule and all. Thank master Jesus for giving me wisdom (and thank me for finally accepting it 😌😏). So I have a story for you guys today. 

Story story… Once upon a time, so a new staff joined my department this past week and everyone tried to get him integrated into the system by explaining stuff to him and putting him through anything he had issues with. We’re good people you know 😏. However, when we joined the department, no integration was done for us and so one of the old staff made this famous “nobody did it for me” comment and jokingly said he was done helping the man to integrate, then he took a break. I on the other hand, continued helping this man integrate then had to quickly run an errand and found myself thinking the “nobody did this for me” thought. Not for long though because the Holy Spirit interrupted by telling me that Jesus died for me yet I wasn’t dying for anyone so what did it matter if no one did it for me? Deep stuff!! I was made to understand that daily carrying my cross to follow God, loving Him and loving my neighbors as I love myself, walking in the Spirit, basically doing things that please the father, not the world, is dying everyday. The selfless act of helping the new guy integrate when no one did it for me was doing what Jesus did on the cross for me. 

So you people that have the “nobody did it for me” syndrome and those of you that do not, I’m asking you today. How do you lay your life for others on a daily basis? At least someone did that for you. 

Hope your week started off lovely? Mine started with a bang. The message on Sunday morning was AMAZING!! What did your Pastor preach about on Sunday? Have a great week ahead, God bless you. 

P.s. Do you guys think short posts like these should be YouTube videos instead?

P.p.s. Do you guys remember the bible verse above from this challenge?

Nothing but the blood

There’s a real edifying song of the week or favorite song this time unlike what i previously had in mind in the last post. I heard this song in a makeup tutorial video i saw on instagram and decided that It was a must to know the song so I downloaded it. Its by Guvna B ft. Deitrick Haddon. Enjoy!!

What can wash away my sin?
Nothing but the blood of Jesus
What can make me whole again?
Nothing but the blood of Jesus


What can wash away my sin?
Nothing but the blood of Jesus
What can make me whole again?
Nothing but the blood of Jesus


Oh, precious is the flow
That makes me white as snow
No other fount I know
Nothing but the blood of Jesus


Yo me and Adam man we’ve really got to have words
I’m sorry brother but I heard you made it all worse
I’m stuck, I don’t know what works
I know it ain’t all your fault
You’re just as flawed as me and plus I know what it’s like when I let Satan talk to me
And yo I’ve read all these books
And I’ve read all these verses so why when I progress do I get caught in versing
I’m trying to keep it moving
Just trying to find your grace
But I just feel like in my life I’ve made so many mistakes


What can wash away my sin?
Nothing but the blood of Jesus
What can make me whole again?
Nothing but the blood of Jesus


Oh, precious is the flow
That makes me white as snow
No other fount I know
Nothing but the blood of Jesus


They think I’m crazy (crazy)
And they don’t understand where I’ve been lately (lately)
I’ve been battling myself but can he save me (save me)
I put my faith upon that shelf and yeah it changed me you could tell that I’ve been lazy,
it’s the world that I was craving
But then I had a dream
He said that life ain’t always what it seems
Every test is a lesson
Every lesson is a blessing
If you choose to see the message


What can wash away my sin?
Nothing but the blood of Jesus
What can make me whole again?
Nothing but the blood of Jesus


Oh, precious is the flow
That makes me white as snow
No other fount I know
Nothing but the blood of Jesus


And so I’m here (so I’m here)
And I’m still standing by his grace, it disappeared (disappeared)
And all my failures, all my same now I see clear (I see clear)
And that’s because no other name has bought me near
And I can’t wait to see his face
I’m pressing on
All my mistakes, they are erased
And now I’m strong
It’s like the judge has closed the case
I can’t move on
And yeah I’ve moved from place to place
But now I found where I belong
It was the blood, it was the blood of Jesus
It was the blood, it was the blood of Jesus
(Well I’m nothing without the blood of Jesus)


What can wash away my sin?
Nothing but the blood of Jesus
What can make me whole again?
Nothing but the blood of Jesus


Oh, precious is the flow
That makes me white as snow
No other fount I know
Nothing but the blood of Jesus


It was the blood, it was the blood of Jesus (save me) and saved me
It was the blood, it was the blood of Jesus (raised me) then raised me (I need’ it)
Oh, precious is the flow (we all need’ it)
That makes me white as snow
No other fount I know
Nothing but the blood of Jesus

You can download the song here!! 

P.s. Yes I’m back!!! So much gist for you guys and questions too. Stay blessed.


Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life (Proverbs 4:23).

Hii guys!! Long time no conversation. I went for nysc orientation camp (a compulsory one year national youth service for Nigerians after university) in May that’s why I disappeared and then I’ve just been lazy and unconnected to the Source since I got back so I stayed away. As I promised, I’m going to be vulnerable today and tell you about a struggle I recently struggled with 😏😏. 

I’m not one who’s up to date with the latest songs or movies, which is very helpful as I was going off secular music but then as I’m driving or basically living my life trying to be right before God, this catchy, worldly song comes up and refuses to leave my head. Being discerning with music is a struggle for me basically. The recent terror in my head was Ed Sheeran’s shape of you. You guys I fell in love with that song and listened to it everyday, seven days a week. It didn’t help that in camp it was played a lot as well. I don’t download songs until I’m really feeling them and I downloaded this song. The love was really intense. I felt guilty though, I won’t lie. I thought about coming on here and letting it feature as the song of the week but then that in no way edifies anyone or shines any light. I imagined how Jesus would feel if He followed me on twitter and saw me tweeting the lyrics of shape of you. Would he retweet? I think not!! That’s when I decided to seek help from Him. You guys, God is amazing!!! This last week, four things I listened to/watched addressed the issue of our humanity. The thing is we are still human. This morning, as I was reading a book, the purpose driven life, I saw a portion about admitting our limitations. Admitting that we’re human and we don’t have it all figured out. Admitting that sometimes we don’t know what to do and we need guidance. It’s so hard to do that when we’re Christians because we set a high standard for ourselves. The truth is we are hated because we are in this world and not of this world and any slip up, we become the next hot topic on news blogs. Also, because we are humans, some of us set low standards for ourselves. You know these ones by their excuse that sounds like a broken record – the famous “we’re still humans and not perfect anyways”. Revivals are killed by our humanity. Either we think too much of it or not enough or it. The remedy however is seeing ourselves as God sees us – humans that are able to do all things through Him who strengthens us. God knows we are weak but He strengthens us to do all things. And yes, it’s only through God we can do all things. So, our humanity does not make us weak as long as we have God and also we are not able to do it all UNTIL we have God that strengthens us. We need to keep remembering that in Him we live, we move and we have our being.

Back to the music issue, I began rationalizing if listening to secular music was okay as long as it didn’t affect my thought process. Fortunately or unfortunately, I saw a picture of Jay z’s new album on a pastor’s instastory and I used that to justify myself. From justifying myself about listening to secular music, I moved on to justifying wearing inappropriate clothing and condoning swear words, compromising in relationships and basically going against some of my values. It was then I knew I needed a check and went back to the word of God, reading the book of acts (i like this book because it gives the account of the early church which is the account of most of us after accepting Jesus. We’re so gingered at first and then the fire burns out and we’re no longer hot for God. It’s a good book to read when you feel like you’re losing the fire). Later on, my friend sent me a message by Apostle Selman that can be downloaded here. The message is titled “Why revivals die?”. It talks about how our humanity kills revivals. I also stumbled across the Heather Lindsey show episode that talked about music and tv shows and how they unconsciously affect us. You can watch it below. 

I thought that the line – “everyday discovering something brand new” was actually “every woman’s covered in something brand new” and it made me wonder what my smell was and wanted me to get a smell that’s unique to me. Thankfully it wasn’t anything major that it made me do. The song in general though is a very lustful one. Also, watching too many kissing scenes in movies made me wonder if my decision here was me being extreme. I knew it was not something the devil told me to do, I knew it was not something I wanted to do myself because I daydream about kissing my boo. It was something God wanted/or something I wanted to do to give glory to God. During a recent Bible study, i realized that what God wanted in the old testament is what God wanted in the new testament and still wants now. He wants us to be pure without blemish. I saw a quote in twitter that purity is not abstaining from sex, but being focused on God. I want everything that concerns me to be focused on God and that’s why the decision was made. The Bible verse that says guard your heart is truly a good one. 

Jackie Hill Perry did a talk or preaching on spiritual warfare that I watched and she hit some key points. She talked about how the devil is not at war with God because Jesus defeated him a long time ago but the devil is warring with God by messing with our faith.  We wrestle not against flesh and blood but against principalities and powers. She used Adam and Eve as a case study. The devil uses our humanity to mess with us. He presents a version of the Scripture to us but because our faith in God is weak, we don’t realize the verse was taken out of context. Faith is the only weapon of defense in the armor of God therefore we should work out our faith with fear and trembling (2 Corinthians 13:10). You really should watch the video. 

Lastly, I saw a thread on twitter about music. You can read it here. I’ve been obsessed with twitter of late. So many young people sold out to Christ. God is indeed doing wonders with our generation. Have an amazing week guys and pray for our generation. I love you, but God loves you more. 

And it is impossible to please God without faith. Anyone who wants to come to him must believe that God exists and that he rewards those who sincerely seek him (Hebrews 11:6).

I’ll leave you with another episode of the Heather Lindsey show. You can watch more episodes on her youtube channel.

You Are God

My new favourite song is “You are God” by Nathaniel Bassey and Chigozie Achugo. You can download the song here and the lyrics are below. Enjoy!!

You are God from beginning to the end
There’s no place for argument
You are God all by yourself
You are God from beginning to the end
There’s no place for argument
You are God all by yourself

You’ve got times and seasons in your hands
You called for light out of darkness
You don’t need a man to be the God you are
But you have chosen to call me your own

You are God from beginning to the end
There’s no place for argument
You are God all by yourself
You are God from beginning to the end
There’s no place for argument
You are God all by yourself

You’ve got times and seasons in your hands
You called for light out of darkness
You don’t need a man to be the God you are
But you have chosen to call me your own

You are God from beginning to the end
There’s no place for argument
You are God all by yourself
You are God from beginning to the end
There’s no place for argument
You are God all by yourself
You are God from beginning to the end
There’s no place for argument
You are God all by yourself
You are God from beginning to the end
There’s no place for argument
You are God all by yourself
You are God from beginning to the end
There’s no place for argument
You are God all by yourself
You are God from beginning to the end
There’s no place for argument
You are God all by yourself

I think this song is in the album Nathaniel released last year but I just heard it (LASTMA I KNOW!!). My favourite part of the song is the line that God needs no man to be the God He is. It tells us of how useless we are to HIm yet He loves us. Love so beautiful!! Nathaniel Bassey and Mairo Ese have to be my favourite Nigerian music ministers and its quite shocking Nathaniel has never featured on here before. Better late than never right?

What song(s) are you jamming to currently? I’d love to hear from you.

#PhosMoment – Sugarfied

Another #PhosMoment here!!! All the sweet tooth people in the house can I see your hands up?  ✋✋✋✋✋✋✋✋✋

Hi my name is Phos and I’m a sweet tooth. I had been off sugar for a while but relapsed sometime in January and I’m just trying to get it right again. In January, I happened to graduate from the university and was fortunate enough to have a graduation cake. Since it was graduation, I decided to have a cheat day which became a cheat week and then a cheat month. Just tasting sugar once revived the sugar lover in me and I relapsed. 

This is the same with sin. My Bible study teachers when I was younger will tell us that when we tell just one lie, we need like 50 more to cover it up, which is true. This however is not limited to just lies. We wrestle not against flesh and blood but against principalities and powers and just like on the battlefield, the opponent looks for weak spots to attack – any part of the body that’s not protected, because once a soldier is hit, he becomes compromised. He’s weaker and it’s easier for the enemy to attack him again or even kill him. The devil is out there looking for who to kill, steal and destroy and the moment he finds a weak spot, he takes advantage of it and all he needs is for you to fall once and he’ll make you fall over and over again. All hope is not lost however because the Bible says if we confess our sins, he’s faithful to forgive us of all our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness (1 John 1:9). Therefore if you fall, immediately get up and clean yourself up by asking God for forgiveness and don’t turn a cheat second into a cheat minute or a cheat hour or a cheat day or a cheat week or a cheat month. Get up immediately and clean yourself. For example, watching or reading pornography, one might not know by just clicking a link that he’ll get to such a site and then he gets there and starts watching instead of closing it immediately he found out then someone walks in and asks, what he’s doing and he lies and the lie leads to more lies and all that. The ideal thing however was to close the site once it was found out what kind of site it. It’s easier said than done though. God help us all. 

Something similar happened to me. I decided (it’s a choice) to continue in the sin since I had already started and then I remembered my sugar days and just like that #PhosMoment. Thankfully though, i realized what was happening before it got out of hand. I do not want to imagine what would have happened if it went out of hand so I thought to share so we can encourage ourselves.

What Phos Moment have you had lately?? 

Can girls and guys be just friends? 

“And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow–not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love.” Romans 8:38 (NLT)

I don’t know if y’all are like me and think that boys and girls can’t be just friends without developing romantic feelings for themselves. Well I’m not like that again but that used to be me. Or rather I’m trying not to be like that. My case was extreeeemmmeeee. It was getting out of hand. I thought every guy that spoke to me wanted a relationship and that really isn’t true. 

I declared a boy fast a couple of weeks ago and that means that instead of daydreaming about a boy that could be my husband, I’ll go and read my Bible or pray. The fast has been a terrible flop. It flopped soooooo bad I’m ashamed. So I decided to go to the Genesis (Like the Davies will say)  and I realized I didn’t believe any guy will walk up to me and talk to me if he wasn’t attracted and if I did the walking up, I believed he’ll get attracted eventually and so every guy I spoke to was potential husband. Now that is ironic because I have a lot of guy friends that are really just friends, no strings attached so I don’t know how this mindset came about. And also if a guy wasn’t talking to me, I thought I was not attractive. This is a lie from the pit of hell. The purpose of relationships is to add value. If I don’t think you can add value to me, I won’t talk to you and I think others think that before they talk to me too. So no you guys, it’s not because guys are attracted to me they talk to me. I remember a friend I had that said he talks to me cos I make him laugh and when he’s having a bad day, the conversation cheers him up. I have a friend that anytime he messages me, I know I’m gon’ learn something from the scripture that day. So it’s possible to have a no strings attached relationship with the opposite sex. 

I also decided to take a look at Jesus’ life. He had no babe but he had female friends. Maybe it was because of Mary sef that Judas went to betray Him. Martha also was his friend. Although their brother, Lazarus was part of the quartet. Also, the Samaritan woman, Jesus spoke to her first and it was not because He was attracted to her, but because He did not want her to perish (agape love) plus she had evangelistic potential in her and He was just helping her discover it. Same thing he did with Paul (sermon for another day). Jesus was also friends with Mary Magdalene. I believe He was popular with the females sef that’s why they went to His grave to anoint Him with spices on the third day (Mark 16:1). If Jesus just shunned the women saying He wasn’t here to develop feelings, I don’t think they’d have wanted to go and anoint Him with spices. Jesus was human and He felt like us so I’m very sure He could have crushed on girls but He controlled His feelings and was just friends with a them. So again, I say, guys and girls can be just friends. 

This obviously is not something that just happens. It’s by making a conscious effort, renewing the mind. So guys, I have renewed my mind. If Jesus was just friends with girls, I can be just friends with boys too and when I happen to have a stubborn crush that refuses to die, I literally run from the temptation (I did this last sunday). I don’t hang around the person, or draw unnecessary attention to myself. And also, the boy fast, it works guys. Although I’m not that faithful with it, I don’t read my Bible or pray (I pray about it when I remember though), but I start exercising or see a movie when I start daydreaming. I believe everyone needs to come to this realization. The Bible says to guard one’s heart and this is one way to ensure that. Thinking every guy or girl out there is into you, creates a reality in your head that’s not always the reality. I once listened to a preaching by Heather Lindsey and she said imagine you’re thinking this guy called B is into you simply because he asked for your name and so in your head you’ve planned your wedding because you think He’s everything you’ve dreamed of (the only real conversation you’ve had with him was he asking for your name) but then 2 months later you hear B is engaged to this girl called A and you become heartbroken and nurse hatred for A. What does she have that you do not anyways? Meanwhile A never did anything to you but because you hadn’t guarded your heart and started imagining things that were not, you played yourself. I’d also like to add here not to encourage guys /girls attracted to you but you know there’s no future with both of you as a couple in it. I know you’re enjoying the attention but you’re wrecking the other person emotionally. That’s not a way to love your neighbour. I also believe that being able to control your thoughts and feelings prepares one for marriage. You’re going to be with just one person in the end and there would be tons of guys that’ll be better looking that’ll come your way. Whether as business partners, clients, shop attendants, bosses, whatever they are, they’ll come your way and you have to be able to control yourself and your emotions. 

With these few points of mine, I hope I have been able to convince you that boys and girls can be friends. Can they be best friends however? I don’t think so. Only your significant other is allowed to be your best friend of the opposite sex. Adieous! 

*Disclaimer: This is not a cast in stone advice. It is just my opinion and any guy reading this, please adjust scenarios to suit you. I’m female that’s why I used such examples, forgive me. Also, a relationship/friendship takes two people so if you’re not willing to be just friends with the opposite sex, this post is not for you. 

Do you think girls and guys can be just friends? or best friends even?

Confessions of a Christian Chick

“Before I formed you in the womb I knew [and] approved of you [as My chosen instrument], and before you were born I separated and set you apart, consecrating you; [and] I appointed you as a prophet to the nations.” Jeremiah 1:5 (AMPC)

Heyyy best friends!! It’s been a while I know and I’m so sorry about that. At first I was really busy but then I just became lazy. Happy New Month!!!! A number of people told me I’m too coded in this April that passed (although I think I’m an open book). I was voted most likely to elope with bae by my friends, because of my coded ways they say (although, I think someone capable of eloping has to be adventurous, not so much coded) so I decided to start this new segment on the blog. For every time I’m away for more than one week, I have to return with a confession. Introduce something new myself since apparently no one truly knows me 😒😒. Let’s start today’s gist shall we? 


This is not a commandment in the Bible because I can see how some of you are already bringing out your Bibles for me to point out the book, chapter and verse so I repeat, this is not a commandment in the Bible. The Bible however does say to not fornicate and to flee from all appearances of evil and when God tells me to flee, being the drama queen that I am, I pick race. Also, Cornelius Lindsey said God told him not to kiss his wife until their wedding day because she was not his yet and that made so much sense to me. My boyfriend is not mine yet until we’re married. The Bible even says in 1st Corinthians 7 that it’s not permissible for a husband to deny his wife of his body as the husband has authority over the wife’s body and vice versa so I know that I own him after marriage *evil laugh*. Before marriage however, there is nothing of the such. Its possible that I date someone and end up not marrying him so he’s not really mine. You don’t just go to a car dealer, pick up the keys to a car and drive it home that it’s yours. You have to pay for it and even if you say but you can test drive, remember that once you hit it, dent it, scratch it, you pay for it as well. You can’t eat your cake and have it. 

A while ago, I went to visit my friend who wanted to see me and on getting there, he started to tell me how he had feelings for me. There was nothing wrong with that but I told him I didn’t feel the same way and that’s how my guy nau wanted to kiss me saying kissing makes people see things differently. Now I don’t know about you, but marriage is a forever business and I won’t want to enter into it eyes closed. My friend explained to me how this (kissing making people see things differently) happens but I wasn’t really listening, I was in shock. My eyes were wide open and my brain was functioning perfectly when I said I did not feel the same way about him so why would kissing change anything? I didn’t sha wait to find out. I don’t want to make decisions with a cloudy mindset. 

The main purpose of a phone is to make and receive calls that’s why no matter what you’re doing on your phone, when a call comes in, there’s a disruption so you either pick the call or ignore it. This does not stop the phone from having other functions. It just recognizes the main purpose as most important or of utmost priority and the others as peripheral. Marriage, in the same way, is first for companionship, to find a helpmate that would help in achieving God’s purpose for your life. God saw that it was not good for Adam to be alone and so He brought Eve. This is the primary reason for marriage. Marriage is first and foremost for companionship and I would want to see if I enjoy the company of my boyfriend without the attractions (distractions)  before I marry him. I want to truly know him, what he stands for and see if we have the same vision in life, basically just enjoy his company so that when I’m pregnant and throwing up and cranky and I might not feel like kissing or touching him, I want to know that I’ll enjoy just being around him. It’s before marriage I’ll check that because marriage is till death do us part. 

Right now, this “not kissing before marriage” is getting really popular but I made the decision when I knew about just Heather and Cornelius Lindsey and I won’t even lie to you that it’s been easy. I don’t have a boyfriend yet and I’ve changed my mind about it a million times so I’m telling you guys (first set of people I’m telling actually) so that you can serve as an accountability group for me. These are some of the reasons my lips are going to lose their virginity on my wedding day. Basically, all the reasons can be summed up into two

1. I want to honor God and put Him first

2. I want to truly know my future hubby before I agree to forever. 

*Bonus reason*

3. It helps in the filtering of guys

So now you know one private thing about me. Tell me one thing about yourself. I’d love to know you better. How do you feel about not kissing till the wedding day? Have you tried it?  Are you trying it?  Or do you know anyone trying it?  I’d love to hear from you. 

Till next time!!