Confessions of a Christian Chick

“Before I formed you in the womb I knew [and] approved of you [as My chosen instrument], and before you were born I separated and set you apart, consecrating you; [and] I appointed you as a prophet to the nations.” Jeremiah 1:5 (AMPC)

Heyyy best friends!! It’s been a while I know and I’m so sorry about that. At first I was really busy but then I just became lazy. Happy New Month!!!! A number of people told me I’m too coded in this April that passed (although I think I’m an open book). I was voted most likely to elope with bae by my friends, because of my coded ways they say (although, I think someone capable of eloping has to be adventurous, not so much coded) so I decided to start this new segment on the blog. For every time I’m away for more than one week, I have to return with a confession. Introduce something new myself since apparently no one truly knows me 😒😒. Let’s start today’s gist shall we? 

I DO NOT WANT TO KISS MY HUSBAND UNTIL MY WEDDING DAY. 

This is not a commandment in the Bible because I can see how some of you are already bringing out your Bibles for me to point out the book, chapter and verse so I repeat, this is not a commandment in the Bible. The Bible however does say to not fornicate and to flee from all appearances of evil and when God tells me to flee, being the drama queen that I am, I pick race. Also, Cornelius Lindsey said God told him not to kiss his wife until their wedding day because she was not his yet and that made so much sense to me. My boyfriend is not mine yet until we’re married. The Bible even says in 1st Corinthians 7 that it’s not permissible for a husband to deny his wife of his body as the husband has authority over the wife’s body and vice versa so I know that I own him after marriage *evil laugh*. Before marriage however, there is nothing of the such. Its possible that I date someone and end up not marrying him so he’s not really mine. You don’t just go to a car dealer, pick up the keys to a car and drive it home that it’s yours. You have to pay for it and even if you say but you can test drive, remember that once you hit it, dent it, scratch it, you pay for it as well. You can’t eat your cake and have it. 

A while ago, I went to visit my friend who wanted to see me and on getting there, he started to tell me how he had feelings for me. There was nothing wrong with that but I told him I didn’t feel the same way and that’s how my guy nau wanted to kiss me saying kissing makes people see things differently. Now I don’t know about you, but marriage is a forever business and I won’t want to enter into it eyes closed. My friend explained to me how this (kissing making people see things differently) happens but I wasn’t really listening, I was in shock. My eyes were wide open and my brain was functioning perfectly when I said I did not feel the same way about him so why would kissing change anything? I didn’t sha wait to find out. I don’t want to make decisions with a cloudy mindset. 

The main purpose of a phone is to make and receive calls that’s why no matter what you’re doing on your phone, when a call comes in, there’s a disruption so you either pick the call or ignore it. This does not stop the phone from having other functions. It just recognizes the main purpose as most important or of utmost priority and the others as peripheral. Marriage, in the same way, is first for companionship, to find a helpmate that would help in achieving God’s purpose for your life. God saw that it was not good for Adam to be alone and so He brought Eve. This is the primary reason for marriage. Marriage is first and foremost for companionship and I would want to see if I enjoy the company of my boyfriend without the attractions (distractions)  before I marry him. I want to truly know him, what he stands for and see if we have the same vision in life, basically just enjoy his company so that when I’m pregnant and throwing up and cranky and I might not feel like kissing or touching him, I want to know that I’ll enjoy just being around him. It’s before marriage I’ll check that because marriage is till death do us part. 

Right now, this “not kissing before marriage” is getting really popular but I made the decision when I knew about just Heather and Cornelius Lindsey and I won’t even lie to you that it’s been easy. I don’t have a boyfriend yet and I’ve changed my mind about it a million times so I’m telling you guys (first set of people I’m telling actually) so that you can serve as an accountability group for me. These are some of the reasons my lips are going to lose their virginity on my wedding day. Basically, all the reasons can be summed up into two

1. I want to honor God and put Him first

2. I want to truly know my future hubby before I agree to forever. 

*Bonus reason*

3. It helps in the filtering of guys

So now you know one private thing about me. Tell me one thing about yourself. I’d love to know you better. How do you feel about not kissing till the wedding day? Have you tried it?  Are you trying it?  Or do you know anyone trying it?  I’d love to hear from you. 

Till next time!!

Phos….xx

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Since Your Love

For all who are led by the Spirit of God are children of God.

Romans 8:14 (NLT)

I found this song on Sunday on Africanism Cosmopolitan and its been playing ever since. I have this on and off love for bands but i really truly like the instrumentals in this song. The words of the song spoke to me. I was trying to understand myself.You know, we learn new things everyday and I was trying to understand why today I didn’t like sharwama and tomorrow I loved it. Yes, this little thing was frustrating me and the wordings of this song gave me so much life. It doesn’t matter if i’m sharwama loving or not as long as I’m in Him. So now, when I’m asked who I am, I know exactly who. I am the righteousness of Christ Jesus who sometimes loves sharwama and sometimes does not. But it does not matter because In Him I have my being, He’s my breath, my life, my everything and I was made by Him for Him. What I eat does not matter as long as Jesus is at the center of my life. A lot of time we meet small distractions that the devil turns to a big deal. The devil is very wicked. This song just reminded me of all that matters.The song is by United Pursuit ft Brandon Hampton (the song is actually playing as I’m typing this). The lyrics?

You are the light  
Song of my life
You always lead me
You are the voice inside

You are my love
No one before you
All that I am 
Points to You

And I was made by you
I was made for you
I am unfulfilled without full communion

You are the light
Song of my life
You always lead me
You are the voice inside

You are my love
No one before you
All that I am
Longs For You

And I was made by you
I was made for you
I am unfulfilled without full communion

I was made by you
And I was made for you
I am unfulfilled without full communion 

Since your love got a hold of me
Since your love got a hold of me
I’m a new creation
I’m forever changed

[Repeat 3x]

I was made by you
I was made for you
I am unfulfilled without full communion

In you, is all I need
You’re my breath, you’re my life, you’re my everything
[Repeat 11x]

My favorite part of the song is that “Since your love got a hold of me” part (it just started playing). This song just gets me really excited. I hope it blesses you as much as it blessed me. God bless you people.

Download the song here

P.S: Speaking of things that excite me, the verse of the month really pumps me. Check it out – Titus 2:7-8. The verse in the Amplified version or the Message translation is a pump.

P.p.s:This is why we are to watch what it is that we watch, listen to and all. The devil uses every opportunity he has to get to us. We should do everything with the leading of the spirit because somethings don’t seem harmful but are killers. When we do things by the leading of the Spirit, we avoid harm and we always get involved with things that give life.

1 Corinthians 7

Happy Valentines day Phos fam!! In the spirit of Valentine and showing love to your partner, I decided to drop this chapter from the Bible for you to digest. It talks about marriage principles and makes you think about whether to remain single or not and Paul had a very valid point on why we shouldn’t get married. Tell me what you guys think in the comments. 

Now, getting down to the questions you asked in your letter to me. First, Is it a good thing to have sexual relations? Certainly—but only within a certain context. It’s good for a man to have a wife, and for a woman to have a husband. Sexual drives are strong, but marriage is strong enough to contain them and provide for a balanced and fulfilling sexual life in a world of sexual disorder. The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to “stand up for your rights.” Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out. Abstaining from sex is permissible for a period of time if you both agree to it, and if it’s for the purposes of prayer and fasting—but only for such times. Then come back together again. Satan has an ingenious way of tempting us when we least expect it. I’m not, understand, commanding these periods of abstinence—only providing my best counsel if you should choose them. Sometimes I wish everyone were single like me—a simpler life in many ways! But celibacy is not for everyone any more than marriage is. God gives the gift of the single life to some, the gift of the married life to others. I do, though, tell the unmarried and widows that singleness might well be the best thing for them, as it has been for me. But if they can’t manage their desires and emotions, they should by all means go ahead and get married. The difficulties of marriage are preferable by far to a sexually tortured life as a single. And if you are married, stay married. This is the Master’s command, not mine. If a wife should leave her husband, she must either remain single or else come back and make things right with him. And a husband has no right to get rid of his wife. For the rest of you who are in mixed marriages—Christian married to non-Christian—we have no explicit command from the Master. So this is what you must do. If you are a man with a wife who is not a believer but who still wants to live with you, hold on to her. If you are a woman with a husband who is not a believer but he wants to live with you, hold on to him. The unbelieving husband shares to an extent in the holiness of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is likewise touched by the holiness of her husband. Otherwise, your children would be left out; as it is, they also are included in the spiritual purposes of God. On the other hand, if the unbelieving spouse walks out, you’ve got to let him or her go. You don’t have to hold on desperately. God has called us to make the best of it, as peacefully as we can. You never know, wife: The way you handle this might bring your husband not only back to you but to God. You never know, husband: The way you handle this might bring your wife not only back to you but to God. And don’t be wishing you were someplace else or with someone else. Where you are right now is God’s place for you. Live and obey and love and believe right there. God, not your marital status, defines your life. Don’t think I’m being harder on you than on the others. I give this same counsel in all the churches.

 

FAST FORWARD…….

 

The Master did not give explicit direction regarding virgins, but as one much experienced in the mercy of the Master and loyal to him all the way, you can trust my counsel. Because of the current pressures on us from all sides, I think it would probably be best to stay just as you are. Are you married? Stay married. Are you unmarried? Don’t get married. But there’s certainly no sin in getting married, whether you’re a virgin or not. All I am saying is that when you marry, you take on additional stress in an already stressful time, and I want to spare you if possible. I do want to point out, friends, that time is of the essence. There is no time to waste, so don’t complicate your lives unnecessarily. Keep it simple—in marriage, grief, joy, whatever. Even in ordinary things—your daily routines of shopping, and so on. Deal as sparingly as possible with the things the world thrusts on you. This world as you see it is on its way out. I want you to live as free of complications as possible. When you’re unmarried, you’re free to concentrate on simply pleasing the Master. Marriage involves you in all the nuts and bolts of domestic life and in wanting to please your spouse, leading to so many more demands on your attention. The time and energy that married people spend on caring for and nurturing each other, the unmarried can spend in becoming whole and holy instruments of God. I’m trying to be helpful and make it as easy as possible for you, not make things harder. All I want is for you to be able to develop a way of life in which you can spend plenty of time together with the Master without a lot of distractions. If a man has a woman friend to whom he is loyal but never intended to marry, having decided to serve God as a “single,” and then changes his mind, deciding he should marry her, he should go ahead and marry. It’s no sin; it’s not even a “step down” from celibacy, as some say. On the other hand, if a man is comfortable in his decision for a single life in service to God and it’s entirely his own conviction and not imposed on him by others, he ought to stick with it. Marriage is spiritually and morally right and not inferior to singleness in any way, although as I indicated earlier, because of the times we live in, I do have pastoral reasons for encouraging singleness. A wife must stay with her husband as long as he lives. If he dies, she is free to marry anyone she chooses. She will, of course, want to marry a believer and have the blessing of the Master. By now you know that I think she’ll be better off staying single. The Master, in my opinion, thinks so, too.

1 Corinthians 7:1‭-‬17; 25-40 MSG

It was a long one, sorry about that. Paul addressed just about everyone here. Single, married (the different types of married), widowed, separated. I want to know what your thoughts on this passage are and whether you’re thinking of remaining single now so you can have more time fore God, after-all, He created us for His glory. And if you’re married, do you think you spend less time with God now?

I am single and still looking forward to getting married thank you very much. I however believe that every season we’re in should be maximized, used for the glory of God, which is what Paul was saying in case you didn’t get that, so I’m maximizing my singleness and when I get married I’ll maximize my marriage. I also would not want to have achieved so much in my relationship with God as a single woman and then have to take two steps backwards when I get married so I’ll rather stay single than settle (Lord you know my heart desire though 😭 ). For those who are unequally yoked, its hard and frustrating because the devil has room to attack your family, your first ministry, and its frustrating. I haven’t been through it but I understand. Just keep clinging to God, with Him, you’ll make it through and I believe prayer and fasting should be your best friends to ensure that your Holy Ghost booster is always full. The armor of God too should always be worn. That’s my own opinion. Let me hear your thoughts people.

BTW how are you spending your valentine’s day? I’m spending mine in the word and chilling today, some food and maybe netflix later (we have to find more series gospels).

We have no pride

Hi Phos family!! This is the first post of the Salvation Basics/Lessons I talked about in this post. The first thing to know when one is saved is that he’s a new creature. His sins have been forgiven and he starts on a clean slate

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here (2 Corinthians 5:17)!

Now that we know this, its important to know that the life we’re living now is no longer ours. Its God’s.

I have been crucified with Christ, and it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me. So the life I now live in the body, I live because of the faithfulness of the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me (Galatians 2:20).

When we’re in Christ, it’s no longer about us and therefore whatever He tells us to do we do. Wherever He tells us to go we go. Our answer should always be yes. We are not to think about ourselves, therefore we no longer have pride.

“If anyone desires to come after Me, let him deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow Me” (Luke 9:23)

A couple of days ago, God told me to do something and I was like “no nau, what would this person think of me” and He told me, “baby cakes, you have no pride when you’re in me”. It’s the hard truth. Well not so hard cos pleasing God is the ultimate. Humans can’t take us to heaven.

“And I say to you, My friends, do not be afraid of those who kill the body, and after that have no more that they can do. But I will show you whom you should fear: Fear Him who, after He has killed, has power to cast into hell;  yes, I say to you, fear Him” (Luke 12:4-5).

So yes, we have got to learn to swallow our pride when in Christ. Say yes to whatever He tells us to do. Luke 20:17-18 says

Then He looked at them and said, “What then is this that is written:

‘The stone which the builders rejected Has become the chief cornerstone ‘?

Whoever falls on that stone will be broken but on whomever it falls, it will grind him to powder”.

It’s up to you baby cakes. Make your choice. To be broken or ground?? Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need (Matthew 6:33). The rewards of the righteous are numerous – protection, provision of all kinds, good health, and many other earthly rewards. The ultimate reward of course being heaven. We however must be willing to have no pride/swallow our pride/misplace our pride/forget our pride so we can obey all of God’s instructions. Its a small price to pay for eternity.

When Jesus came to earth too He did this – denied Himself and let God take over. That was why His ministry was so successful. 

Then Jesus cried out and said, “He who believes in Me, believes not in Me but in Him who sent Me.  And he who sees Me sees Him who sent Me.  I have come as a light into the world, that whoever believes in Me should not abide in darkness.  And if anyone hears My words and does not believe,  I do not judge him; for I did not come to judge the world but to save the world.  He who rejects Me, and does not receive My words, has that which judges him— the word that I have spoken will judge him in the last day.  For I have not spoken on My own authority; but the Father who sent Me gave Me a command, what I should say and what I should speak.  And I know that His command is everlasting life. Therefore, whatever I speak, just as the Father has told Me, so I speak.”

John 12:44‭-‬50 NKJV

This is a truth I learned this week. Or should I say re-learned. We said we’ll share salvation truths or lessons (we’ll soon come up with a name we promise) every Sundays. You see, we keep our word 😎✌

What did God teach you this week about your salvation?  

P.s: The spirit of God really is one! The key point of my devotional today was “Everything you give up for God is a give-away for the ultimate”