The “Nobody did it for me” syndrome

This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers and sisters (1 John 3:16).

Hi again!! I’m taking my life and blogging seriously now so I’m trying to be more consistent. I have a schedule and all. Thank master Jesus for giving me wisdom (and thank me for finally accepting it 😌😏). So I have a story for you guys today. 

Story story… Once upon a time, so a new staff joined my department this past week and everyone tried to get him integrated into the system by explaining stuff to him and putting him through anything he had issues with. We’re good people you know 😏. However, when we joined the department, no integration was done for us and so one of the old staff made this famous “nobody did it for me” comment and jokingly said he was done helping the man to integrate, then he took a break. I on the other hand, continued helping this man integrate then had to quickly run an errand and found myself thinking the “nobody did this for me” thought. Not for long though because the Holy Spirit interrupted by telling me that Jesus died for me yet I wasn’t dying for anyone so what did it matter if no one did it for me? Deep stuff!! I was made to understand that daily carrying my cross to follow God, loving Him and loving my neighbors as I love myself, walking in the Spirit, basically doing things that please the father, not the world, is dying everyday. The selfless act of helping the new guy integrate when no one did it for me was doing what Jesus did on the cross for me. 

So you people that have the “nobody did it for me” syndrome and those of you that do not, I’m asking you today. How do you lay your life for others on a daily basis? At least someone did that for you. 

Hope your week started off lovely? Mine started with a bang. The message on Sunday morning was AMAZING!! What did your Pastor preach about on Sunday? Have a great week ahead, God bless you. 

P.s. Do you guys think short posts like these should be YouTube videos instead?

P.p.s. Do you guys remember the bible verse above from this challenge?


Can girls and guys be just friends? 

“And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow–not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love.” Romans 8:38 (NLT)

I don’t know if y’all are like me and think that boys and girls can’t be just friends without developing romantic feelings for themselves. Well I’m not like that again but that used to be me. Or rather I’m trying not to be like that. My case was extreeeemmmeeee. It was getting out of hand. I thought every guy that spoke to me wanted a relationship and that really isn’t true. 

I declared a boy fast a couple of weeks ago and that means that instead of daydreaming about a boy that could be my husband, I’ll go and read my Bible or pray. The fast has been a terrible flop. It flopped soooooo bad I’m ashamed. So I decided to go to the Genesis (Like the Davies will say)  and I realized I didn’t believe any guy will walk up to me and talk to me if he wasn’t attracted and if I did the walking up, I believed he’ll get attracted eventually and so every guy I spoke to was potential husband. Now that is ironic because I have a lot of guy friends that are really just friends, no strings attached so I don’t know how this mindset came about. And also if a guy wasn’t talking to me, I thought I was not attractive. This is a lie from the pit of hell. The purpose of relationships is to add value. If I don’t think you can add value to me, I won’t talk to you and I think others think that before they talk to me too. So no you guys, it’s not because guys are attracted to me they talk to me. I remember a friend I had that said he talks to me cos I make him laugh and when he’s having a bad day, the conversation cheers him up. I have a friend that anytime he messages me, I know I’m gon’ learn something from the scripture that day. So it’s possible to have a no strings attached relationship with the opposite sex. 

I also decided to take a look at Jesus’ life. He had no babe but he had female friends. Maybe it was because of Mary sef that Judas went to betray Him. Martha also was his friend. Although their brother, Lazarus was part of the quartet. Also, the Samaritan woman, Jesus spoke to her first and it was not because He was attracted to her, but because He did not want her to perish (agape love) plus she had evangelistic potential in her and He was just helping her discover it. Same thing he did with Paul (sermon for another day). Jesus was also friends with Mary Magdalene. I believe He was popular with the females sef that’s why they went to His grave to anoint Him with spices on the third day (Mark 16:1). If Jesus just shunned the women saying He wasn’t here to develop feelings, I don’t think they’d have wanted to go and anoint Him with spices. Jesus was human and He felt like us so I’m very sure He could have crushed on girls but He controlled His feelings and was just friends with a them. So again, I say, guys and girls can be just friends. 

This obviously is not something that just happens. It’s by making a conscious effort, renewing the mind. So guys, I have renewed my mind. If Jesus was just friends with girls, I can be just friends with boys too and when I happen to have a stubborn crush that refuses to die, I literally run from the temptation (I did this last sunday). I don’t hang around the person, or draw unnecessary attention to myself. And also, the boy fast, it works guys. Although I’m not that faithful with it, I don’t read my Bible or pray (I pray about it when I remember though), but I start exercising or see a movie when I start daydreaming. I believe everyone needs to come to this realization. The Bible says to guard one’s heart and this is one way to ensure that. Thinking every guy or girl out there is into you, creates a reality in your head that’s not always the reality. I once listened to a preaching by Heather Lindsey and she said imagine you’re thinking this guy called B is into you simply because he asked for your name and so in your head you’ve planned your wedding because you think He’s everything you’ve dreamed of (the only real conversation you’ve had with him was he asking for your name) but then 2 months later you hear B is engaged to this girl called A and you become heartbroken and nurse hatred for A. What does she have that you do not anyways? Meanwhile A never did anything to you but because you hadn’t guarded your heart and started imagining things that were not, you played yourself. I’d also like to add here not to encourage guys /girls attracted to you but you know there’s no future with both of you as a couple in it. I know you’re enjoying the attention but you’re wrecking the other person emotionally. That’s not a way to love your neighbour. I also believe that being able to control your thoughts and feelings prepares one for marriage. You’re going to be with just one person in the end and there would be tons of guys that’ll be better looking that’ll come your way. Whether as business partners, clients, shop attendants, bosses, whatever they are, they’ll come your way and you have to be able to control yourself and your emotions. 

With these few points of mine, I hope I have been able to convince you that boys and girls can be friends. Can they be best friends however? I don’t think so. Only your significant other is allowed to be your best friend of the opposite sex. Adieous! 

*Disclaimer: This is not a cast in stone advice. It is just my opinion and any guy reading this, please adjust scenarios to suit you. I’m female that’s why I used such examples, forgive me. Also, a relationship/friendship takes two people so if you’re not willing to be just friends with the opposite sex, this post is not for you. 

Do you think girls and guys can be just friends? or best friends even?

Confessions of a Christian Chick

“Before I formed you in the womb I knew [and] approved of you [as My chosen instrument], and before you were born I separated and set you apart, consecrating you; [and] I appointed you as a prophet to the nations.” Jeremiah 1:5 (AMPC)

Heyyy best friends!! It’s been a while I know and I’m so sorry about that. At first I was really busy but then I just became lazy. Happy New Month!!!! A number of people told me I’m too coded in this April that passed (although I think I’m an open book). I was voted most likely to elope with bae by my friends, because of my coded ways they say (although, I think someone capable of eloping has to be adventurous, not so much coded) so I decided to start this new segment on the blog. For every time I’m away for more than one week, I have to return with a confession. Introduce something new myself since apparently no one truly knows me 😒😒. Let’s start today’s gist shall we? 


This is not a commandment in the Bible because I can see how some of you are already bringing out your Bibles for me to point out the book, chapter and verse so I repeat, this is not a commandment in the Bible. The Bible however does say to not fornicate and to flee from all appearances of evil and when God tells me to flee, being the drama queen that I am, I pick race. Also, Cornelius Lindsey said God told him not to kiss his wife until their wedding day because she was not his yet and that made so much sense to me. My boyfriend is not mine yet until we’re married. The Bible even says in 1st Corinthians 7 that it’s not permissible for a husband to deny his wife of his body as the husband has authority over the wife’s body and vice versa so I know that I own him after marriage *evil laugh*. Before marriage however, there is nothing of the such. Its possible that I date someone and end up not marrying him so he’s not really mine. You don’t just go to a car dealer, pick up the keys to a car and drive it home that it’s yours. You have to pay for it and even if you say but you can test drive, remember that once you hit it, dent it, scratch it, you pay for it as well. You can’t eat your cake and have it. 

A while ago, I went to visit my friend who wanted to see me and on getting there, he started to tell me how he had feelings for me. There was nothing wrong with that but I told him I didn’t feel the same way and that’s how my guy nau wanted to kiss me saying kissing makes people see things differently. Now I don’t know about you, but marriage is a forever business and I won’t want to enter into it eyes closed. My friend explained to me how this (kissing making people see things differently) happens but I wasn’t really listening, I was in shock. My eyes were wide open and my brain was functioning perfectly when I said I did not feel the same way about him so why would kissing change anything? I didn’t sha wait to find out. I don’t want to make decisions with a cloudy mindset. 

The main purpose of a phone is to make and receive calls that’s why no matter what you’re doing on your phone, when a call comes in, there’s a disruption so you either pick the call or ignore it. This does not stop the phone from having other functions. It just recognizes the main purpose as most important or of utmost priority and the others as peripheral. Marriage, in the same way, is first for companionship, to find a helpmate that would help in achieving God’s purpose for your life. God saw that it was not good for Adam to be alone and so He brought Eve. This is the primary reason for marriage. Marriage is first and foremost for companionship and I would want to see if I enjoy the company of my boyfriend without the attractions (distractions)  before I marry him. I want to truly know him, what he stands for and see if we have the same vision in life, basically just enjoy his company so that when I’m pregnant and throwing up and cranky and I might not feel like kissing or touching him, I want to know that I’ll enjoy just being around him. It’s before marriage I’ll check that because marriage is till death do us part. 

Right now, this “not kissing before marriage” is getting really popular but I made the decision when I knew about just Heather and Cornelius Lindsey and I won’t even lie to you that it’s been easy. I don’t have a boyfriend yet and I’ve changed my mind about it a million times so I’m telling you guys (first set of people I’m telling actually) so that you can serve as an accountability group for me. These are some of the reasons my lips are going to lose their virginity on my wedding day. Basically, all the reasons can be summed up into two

1. I want to honor God and put Him first

2. I want to truly know my future hubby before I agree to forever. 

*Bonus reason*

3. It helps in the filtering of guys

So now you know one private thing about me. Tell me one thing about yourself. I’d love to know you better. How do you feel about not kissing till the wedding day? Have you tried it?  Are you trying it?  Or do you know anyone trying it?  I’d love to hear from you. 

Till next time!!



This song ehn, I didn’t really fancy it at first but after being forced to listen to it a couple of times, I fell in love. Its by Jonathan David and Melissa Helser and its called Abba (duh) meaning father. There’s a little story before the song starts. Enjoy!!

You’re more real than
The ground I’m standing on
You’re more real than
The wind in my lungs

Your thoughts define me
You’re inside me
You’re my reality

Abba, I belong to You
Abba, I belong to You

You’re closer than the
Skin on my bones
You’re closer than the
Song on my tongue

Your thoughts define me
You’re inside me
You’re my reality

Abba, I belong to You
Abba, I belong to You
Abba, I belong to You

Very very simple song. Download it here.

What song topped your playlist this week? Btw, if you are looking for good songs to donload, go to Their radio comes on automatically and they play good songs on there. Thank me later!

Love and light Phos fam!! 

Horrible Bosses. 

So like I said, I started interning a few weeks ago and I understand now what people mean when they say they have horrible bosses or that they hate their jobs or that their jobs rule over their lives. It’s a common practice actually and it creeps up on you. I’ll give you the advice I always give myself. The purpose of our existence is to glorify God and we do this by fulfilling the plans He has for us that are of good and not evil to give us a future and a hope. We know these plans by walking in the Spirit. Or being led by the spirit sooooooooo we really should not be involved in anything that isn’t given to us by God. That’s why some people are stuck with jobs they hate or horrible bosses. God is trying to chase you to where he wants you to be. You can’t know this though until you ask Him. There’s also another category of people that God is trying to prune, that’s my category and so we’re stuck with horrible bosses. Me personally, He’s trying to show me that I don’t know it all. It’s sad but when there’s a new adjustment in my life I forget I have to lay it down before God’s feet. I pray before I get the thing, and I thank God once I get it, and begin carrying it on top of my head like I can do it all myself and I end up messing up.  So I’m relearning that. And as I relearn, I hate the job less. I’m beginning to like it sef. I’m also learning humility. Humility is seeing yourself as God sees you – not more, not less so I don’t let people rubbish me but I’m not rude oooooo. Don’t go and say you learnt to be rude from here. For some it’s a case of started from the bottom now we’re here. It’s a case of not despising little beginnings. I think that’s my case too. Ultimately, everything we’re going through now is pruning for the future. But as many that are led by the Spirit are the sons of God so your pruning is different from the person next to you. Being led by the Spirit of God is the key thing here today. Cast all your cares, all your dreams, all your plans, your blessings, upon Him because He cares for you (Phos Translation).

Funny enough since Sunday I’ve been seeing posts on dying to self and yesterday this verse crowned it up. It was said by John the Baptist but we should be able to say it of ourselves too. 

This is the assigned moment for him to move into the center, while I slip off to the sidelines. “The One who comes from above is head and shoulders over other messengers from God. The earthborn is earthbound and speaks earth language; the heavenborn is in a league of his own.

John 3:30-31 MSG

Have an amazziiinngggg rest of the week you guys. Don’t forget to put it all before God. 

#PhosMoment – A Wi-Fi Hack

Another #PhosMoment today. The last PhosMoment was on Vampire diaries which is finally over BTW and I feel like I’ve lost a part of me. *sigh*

 Anyways……. anyone who knows me knows I’m #teamwifi. In Nigeria, my country, good Wi-Fi is like gold and so there are hacks here and there. I realized recently that the Wi-Fi of the house got to my room upstairs only when I was the only one connected to it. When everyone has gone about their daily hustle, and I’m at home alone, I realized accessing the Wi-Fi from my room was a breeze unlike when everyone was home and connected and I had to sit on the staircase to make my connection bareable and even with that it was still slow and shaky. Apparently, the other devices were distracting my device from having a strong and fast connection. So dear friends, I had a va va voom moment. For a while, in December last year and January this year, I had been doing my quiet time in the presence of people. They were doing their thing and I was doing mine but I still didn’t feel the connection to God so I went back to doing my devotion before daybreak and the connection was strong. Have you seen where I’m headed with this? The connection with God is strong when it’s just you and Him and the connection is just bareable, shaky, slow or sometimes even weak when there are distractions. I have therefore set an alarm to wake me up before everyone is up so that I can download and stream as much as I can from the source. 

When do you have your quiet time and when do you think your quiet time is most effective? When it’s done in the morning? At night? When you’re hungry? Or happy or sleepy or sad? Share with the family. We can take a que from you. 

P.s: See I’m getting a hang on working and still having a life.


Look to the LORD and his strength; seek his face always (1 Chor. 16:11).

Do you guys know this song? 

Prayer is the key

Prayer is the key

Prayer is the master key

Jesus started with prayer

And ended with prayer 

Prayer is the master key

Two things that I stumble the most with in this Christian walk thing are prayer and fasting. I think I struggle with them the most because I don’t know the right way or the right times to be involved in them. 1 Thess. 5:17 says pray without ceasing and so as I’m moving I’m like God this this this and that that that and I think I’m fine. But this daily carrying your cross thing ministered to me that every morning I should consciously pray for God to help me carry my cross since I obviously cannot do this on my own. Therefore, praying without ceasing involves praying all the time, even when I’m working or walking and includes the prayer to God every morning to let my light so shine in all my conducts so that people see the good works in me and glorify Him. Some people say praying at night is also essential as that is when the people of darkness plan and execute their dark ways and so we gotta pray. I also know praying in tongues everyday is an essential. I never know what to pray for so I do this a lot. I particularly enjoy this one. The kind of outcomes this praying in tongues brings ehn, it needs a whole paragraph of it’s own. 

So I became a Christian when I was like 5 or 7. Prior to then, I gave my life to Christ every Sunday. Actually everyone in my class did and my teacher noticed and told us that we had to do it just once and we were good. So from that Sunday, we stopped giving our lives to Christ since we were saved. Fast forward to 2011 where some pastor came to share his salvation story. It was father’s day and it pains me that I don’t remember his name. Anyways that day I rededicated my life to God and that’s the day I say I got saved. That’s when I started consciously living in Christ, although it took me a lot of shaking and ruffling here and there before I was rooted. The point of this throwback story is that I got saved in 2011 but didn’t get the gift of speaking in tongues till 2016. 5 years later!!! Some people are privileged to get it immediately they convert but some of us don’t get it till 5 years or more. I don’t know how others get theirs but mine was gotten through the laying of hands. Hands were laid on me and people that could already speak in tongues spoke in tongues till I could. Not everyone left there with the gift of speaking in tongues because God’s timing is perfect. He’s never too early or too late. As a matter of fact, I left there feeling like I couldn’t speak in tongues but the woman that prayed for me kept saying “it’s at the tip of your tongue, just say it. Since it’s from God it can’t be evil”. But what was on the tip of my tongue did not sound like the normal tongues I knew so I didn’t say it until I was on my way home. I didn’t like praying in tongues because I felt my tongues were weird until one day, I was in my room alone, my roommates had gone home because exams were over, and I prayed in tongues for an hour. I timed myself. I figured practice made perfect and the more I prayed in tongues, the more normal I’d sound. That day though changed my perspective of tongues. God obviously heard me and met needs I didn’t know I had. It was that day I realized there’s no one way to pray in tongues. As long as God is the one behind it, you’re good. Since I realized that, I have been hearing tongues stranger than mine and I just mentally add the tongues prayer into our association of weird tongues prayers. The point I am trying to make here is that God is all knowing. Praying in tongues is praying for things you don’t even know you need to pray for. I read in a book that a man woke up one night to pray in tongues. Like the spirit just woke him up to pray and he obliged until his heart was no longer heavy. The next day he realized someone close to him was in an accident at that very time he was praying and was fighting for his life. The prayer he had prayed helped the guy to stay alive. So yes praying in tongues is a big deal. I know that some people reading this might not be able to pray in tongues and it’s fine. I know there’s persecution against people that can’t speak in tongues. I once went to a fellowship and they told only those who could pray in tongues to come forward and pray. While the rest of us were on our seats. I felt really bad so I know what you’re going through. Just remember that Gods time is the best. Don’t stop asking, but don’t let it rule your life. Keep growing in the faith and God would surely release the gift upon you. 

Ehen, back to what I was saying before I digressed, there’s no right or wrong when it comes to prayers unless you’re praying like the Pharisees then that’s wrong (Matt. 6:5). The Bible does not tell us how many times to pray, what to pray about, the position of prayer, all the instructions of prayer are very vague. From my study on prayer, I have realized God did this on purpose. The Holy Spirit is who teaches us how to pray. We have figured out a way for me that works just fine. I used to have a list of names of people I’m praying for and I’ll pray for them and spend an hour. I don’t have that luxury of time anymore and so I stopped. However the Holy Spirit has taught me another way to go about it. There’s no hard and fast rule. The Bible says the things of God are foolishness to the people of the world and the Holy Spirit teaches and counsels us and reveals the things of God to us. The Holy Spirit explains what praying without ceasing is. He explains what Jesus meant when He was designing the Lord’s prayer. He even defines what prayer is. The definition of prayer I got was seeking the face of God. This has made me more conscious about praying every morning and at night. I constantly want to know what’s on God’s mind at all points in time concerning everything. In the morning though it’s about my day, and at night it’s what I want Him to reveal to me about the future or other issues. I’ve gotten to a point of understanding and now I am no longer anxious about anything because I take it to God in prayer and the peace of God which passeth all understanding is mine. 

Prayer is communing with God. I just decided to use seeking His face as the English I wanted. Anytime we talk to God, it’s prayer. Something as little as “God please what should I wear today?” or asking God to help you with a difficult task and trusting His response, is prayer. That’s why the Bible says pray without ceasing. It means be in constant communication with the Spirit. We’re supposed to walk in the Spirit remember? That’s what I’ve learnt about prayer. This past week, a lot of prayers were answered. Sometimes we are not getting results because we haven’t asked. I learnt that as well. This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us (1 John 5:14).

How do you guys fit prayer into your lives? And have you been discriminated against cos you can’t or couldn’t speak in tongues? What is your favorite praying position? I don’t have one. What do you generally think about praying? Share your thoughts with us… xx

P. S: Prayer is different from declaration.

Being Judas

So recently, I’ve been obsessed with Judas Iscariot. The Bible in one year plan I use started off the year with Matthew, Mark, Luke and John and I’ve been intrigued by the betrayal ever since. The Bible has the story of the betrayal preceded by the story of a woman pouring expensive perfume on Jesus’ feet and then wiping it with her hair. Judas then voiced out his thoughts that the perfume should have been sold and then the money given to charity instead of wasting it on the feet of Jesus. Apparently Judas was the treasurer of the Jesus and friends association and used to steal the money. So he really just looked at the situation as a waste of money he could have taken for himself to do whatever he wanted to. That was why he went to the Pharisees and asked what he’ll be given if he handed Jesus over to them (Matt. 26:23). The love of money is truly the root of all evil. This little story has a lot of lessons in it. Whenever people say one is being a Judas, everyone just assumes the person betrayed someone but the truth is there’s more to it and you’ll realize you’ve been a Judas at one point or the other. 

Judas did not remove the log in his eye before removing what he thought was a speck in Jesus’ eye. I mean if anyone accused Jesus of doing anything bad, it shouldn’t have been the king of the baddest boys (I mean bad in the real not good sense of bad). He probably felt Jesus was a fake then he got angry and went to sell Him to the Pharisees. I mean what Son of God would waste perfume on himself when people are starving? He forgot it was the same Jesus that fed the 5000 men one time and 4000 men the other time. The money was not even going to get to the starving people. Jesus is all knowing. He knew that. Plus because we are followers of Christ does not mean we cannot enjoy ourselves. It’s okay to buy clothes, perfumes and all. It only becomes a problem when we put these things before God. The money we have and our possessions are gifts from God so if God tells us to give them away, we should adhere, if God tells us we can spoil ourselves, please go ahead. Jesus rebuked Peter for thinking in the flesh and not in the Spirit (Matt. 16:23) which is what Judas was doing. Jesus had already said that what he says and does was instructed to Him by the father and He did not do anything out of His Job description (John 8:28). Also, remember that everyone is working out their salvation with fear and trembling so you can’t just judge a person from the outside. A while back, a woman said she was mad at a Christian brother for cheating on his wife or was it divorcing his wife. One of the two. And she said she stopped listening to anything from him until God told her the guy had come to Him and repented and he was forgiven and had a clean slate with Him and that she should stop drinking panadol for His headache. The guy was already in God’s good book while she was nursing anger and hatred which are both fruits of the flesh. I’m sure in her mind she thought it was righteous hate and anger. I mean it was on God’s behalf but the truth is everyone has their relationship with God, so rather than judge people, go to God and find out what’s happening. If true true the brother is in sin, God will direct you on how to correct the person. It is no longer you who lives. We always seem to forget this. I pray that God will help us and constantly remind us that it’s not about us but about Him really IJN  

So about removing the log in our eye, Judas was a thief. I mean he was a thief! He used to steal. He didn’t see that one as a problem ooo. It was Jesus uncompassionate ways he saw as a sin that deserved punishment. So he went to sell him out. We are sometimes too busy checking and pointing out other people’s sins that we don’t see ours. The Bible tells us to constantly check that our faith is still intact (2 Cor. 13:5). Yes we are children of God and we have the Spirit does not mean we live in it. We have to daily take up our cross. Daily remember to die to self. Daily pray for God to take over. It’s something we have to remember to do all the time. The truth is that it’s easier said than done and so we need to keep checking to see if we’re in the faith. This can we done by checking through the fruits of the flesh which is an extensive list. You have to read the whole Bible to know all of them. You can do this or get an accountability partner or partners preferably – God and some brother or sister in the Lord that you trust and respect. Anytime you’re producing a fruit of the flesh, they’re there to point it out. God is with us everywhere we go (like MTN), so He can rebuke us immediately. The human, is just there because sometimes we need strong hand. Someone that can physically beat us or drag us or wake us up with a slap. I’m kidding. But sometimes we need to hear somethings about ourselves from the people that surround us. Even Jesus asked His disciples who the people and they, think He is. 

Judas loved money. It’s possible that Judas thought Jesus was going to just disappear when the Pharisees came and so he was just playing the Pharisees and collecting their money. He was being a sharp guy in his small mind. The ways of God and His thoughts are higher than ours though and our wisdom is foolishness to Him. The fear of God is the beginning of wisdom (Pro. 9:10). To fear God is to reverence Him and acknowledge that Jesus came to die for us and ressurected on the third day and is now seated at Gods right hand side. The beginning of wisdom is believing, having faith, walking in the Spirit. The earlier we learn this, the better for us. We can’t be sharp guys if we don’t walk in the word of God that’s sharper than any two edged sword cutting deep between bone and marrow (Heb. 4:12). I repeat, the love of money is truly the root of all evil (1 Tim. 6:10). 

Judas followed Jesus with his legs and not his heart. If Judas had listened to Jesus’ teachings, and let it sink inside of him, he would have known that Jesus was able to forgive him of his sins, no sin being too intense. Peter knew this and that’s why he didn’t hang himself after denying Jesus as Judas did. Many “Christians” today are just working for God and not walking with Him and in the end they’ll be surprised when God says I know thee not. That was the problem He had with one of the churches He sent John to in revelations (Rev. 3:1-6). They had forgotten all about the ‘al’ in walking in faith and replaced it with an ‘or’ thinking that it’s by deeds one gains favor with God. If Judas had a relationship with Jesus, the story would be different today. 

Judas thought only about himself. He didn’t care on whose toes he had to step on to get what he wanted. He was deceived by the lust of the eyes, lust of the flesh and the pride of life (1 John 2:16). I’m also sure somebody fooled him with that “heaven helps those who helps themselves” line. That line is not in the word of God and If anything, I think it means you can’t expect to inherit the Kingdom of Heaven if you don’t walk in the Spirit. So help yourself by acknowledging Jesus as your personal Lord and Savior and declaring to trust in Him and that it’s no longer you who lives. After that, heaven helps by sealing you with the Holy Spirit that’ll tell you the things God has planned for you and teaching and explaining things of God to you. Heaven gives the Holy Spirit to us as a cheat code. Once we adhere to the voice of the Holy Spirit we’re sure of heaven. No stress. That’s how heaven helps those who help themselves. 

Lastly and most common, we know that Judas was a betrayer. He was ungrateful. Jesus had made him a cool kid. I mean he went out performing signs and wonders. It wasn’t by his own strength though but he didn’t remember. He was one of the guys who was with the water walking guy. It was possible Judas was jealous of Jesus. I mean a beautiful damsel was pouring expensive perfume at His feet and wiping it with her hair. In those days, women adored their perfumes and their hair yet one beautiful woman lay it all before Jesus. Maybe he had been toasting this girl, we don’t know. All we know is that after this incident he went to sell Jesus so it’s possible he felt Jesus was cramping his style and needed to be gone and so he sold him despite all that Jesus had done for him. He betrayed his master. 

Oya please wait. Don’t shoot me. I know someone had to betray Jesus. It was necessary for Jesus to die so I’m talking nonsense abi? You guys, there were 11 other apostles that could have betrayed Jesus. Why was it Judas? The above points answer the question. God is not a wicked God. He won’t turn a righteous person bad just to fulfill His ways. They say that by their fruits you shall know them. Jesus noticed these things about Judas and knew he’d be the perfect person for the job. Judas was so gone that Satan could enter and leave him anytime. Little drops of water make a mighty ocean. It therefore was not all of a sudden that Judas became a betrayer. I would like to believe that his friends in the Jesus and friends association sat him down to point out these his faults to him but I’m not sure he was friends with any of them. When Judas asked if he would be the one to betray Jesus and Jesus said it would be as he said and told him to go and get it done and Judas stood up to go outside (John 13:27), I don’t recall anyone following him to counsel him or stop him from doing what he will regret. They assumed that it was for other reasons he was going out. When he had betrayed Jesus finish and was feeling bad, there was no one he could talk to and so he committed suicide. This has taught me to learn to care for the people around me. Constantly call to check up on them, send words of wisdom, share testimonies and all. Nobody is ever too far gone. Apostle Paul is a living testimony. Even if the devil is living inside the person, salvation is still possible with prayers and counsel. Plus assumptions are not always true so I’ll keep checking to make sure we’re all running the race. It has also taught me that I need people. I really like being by myself but now I know it’s not every time that’s me time. 

Feel free to study the Judas story and tell me what you’ve learnt. This took me months to understand so take your time. Don’t rush it! If you’ve already done a study about this topic, please share what you’ve learnt. Iron sharpens iron. 

P.s: I think Judas would have been one of those people that thought he was the real deal. Too cool for school and all that hence the header. What do you think Judas would have been like?

The Holy Spirit


So last week we talked about denying self and losing our pride. It’s easier said than done I know. It’s only with the help of the Holy Spirit it’s possible, that’s why this week we’re looking at the Holy Spirit. 

Look at Peter for example, before the Holy Spirit, he was denying Jesus and sleeping off when he was to pray. He wasn’t sensitive to the things of God. After the Holy spirit, he was fasting and praying and speaking in unknown tongues, spreading the Gospel, getting flogged and rejoicing. The Bible says that when we are saved, our spirit joins with God’s, that’s the Holy Spirit. It’s our evidence of being children of God. It is through the spirit of God that God reveals things to us (1 Cor. 2:10-11). He reveals His plans and purpose for our lives. He reveals decisions He wants us to take. Decisions as little as what car to take, what shoes to wear and all. Man is made up of three components – the spirit, soul and body. The body is the flesh, the spirit joins with God’s Spirit when we’re saved so it becomes the Spirit of God, and the soul is the decision maker. Since God has given us free will, when a decision comes, the flesh and the spirit war against what we should or shouldn’t do. It’s kind of like those cartoons where you see an angel and a demon on the shoulders of man and they’re both advising the man on what to do, only in this case you can’t see the angel and demon talking so you have to discern by yourself who is who.

Most people think the spirit comes and overtakes their actions, decisions and all. Nope!! You choose to obey the voice of the Spirit. This is a gradual process. You’re not going to be a guru at once. Today you adhere to the voice once, tomorrow twice, next tomorrow three times until you don’t have to think twice before saying yes to God. You get to that point where you’re bored and you just say “Hi Holy Spirit” and discuss about things you’re unsure of – the Holy Spirit is a person, best friend material. Again, its a choice. You have to make a conscious effort.

The key to successfully running the Christian race is walking in the Spirit. Which is essentially denying self and doing only things the Spirit says. When your heart desires are the Spirit’s heart desires, you and the Spirit have truly become one. That’s how one successfully runs the Christian race. However, before one gets to know the voice of the Holy Spirit, time has to be spent with Him, reading the Bible, praying, fasting, etc. Walking in the Spirit is living with the fruits of the spirits (But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Gal 5:22-23) and getting rid of the fruits of the flesh ( The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God. Gal 5:19-21). And it is only through walking in the Spirit in faith that one is entitled to the blessings of God. Faith without works after all, is dead.

I don’t know how to explain the Holy Spirit to you so I’ll just let the Bible do the talking.

But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, he will teach you all things and bring to your remembrance all that I have said to you (John 14:26).

“If you love me, you will keep my commandments. And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Helper, to be with you forever, even the Spirit of truth, whom the world cannot receive, because it neither sees him nor knows him. You know him, for he dwells with you and will be in you (John 14:15-17).

“I still have many things to say to you, but you cannot bear them now. When the Spirit of truth comes, he will guide you into all the truth, for he will not speak on his own authority, but whatever he hears he will speak, and he will declare to you the things that are to come. He will glorify me, for he will take what is mine and declare it to you. All that the Father has is mine; therefore I said that he will take what is mine and declare it to you (John 16:12-15).

And even with the Bible there are too many Bible verses describing the Holy Spirit. Everyone that was set apart by God in the old testament was said to have the spirit of God – Daniel, Moses, Abraham, David, the Prophets. They all had the spirit of God and were able to know the mind of God concerning them and in the case of the prophets, concerning people around them. They were able to do exploits for God and are remembered for their exploits. God is all knowing. He knows the end from the beginning. The Bible says trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In ALL your ways acknowledge Him and He’ll direct your path. This verse is the perfect definition of walking in the spirit. Trusting God in the good, in the bad, in the ugly, in the beautiful, come rain, come shine, no matter the situation, our trust lies in God. 

My Story

I’m going to share the most recent experience with the Holy Spirit that I had with you. This post was to go up on Sunday, but instead it’s up today, on a Tuesday. I had known since last week, of course through the help of the Holy Spirit, that this week’s lesson was going to be on the Holy Spirit. I knew I was going to write about an experience with the Holy Spirit but i thought it was going to be the one that happened two Sundays ago as last week’s post was going up. Little did I know that something else was coming.

I started writing the post last week but then I stopped cos the Holy Spirit is such an extensive topic and I didn’t know how to tackle it so I downloaded Andrew Wommack’s message on the Holy Spirit to listen to. I didn’t end up listening to it but I ended up listening to something else and was ready to post but this “You’re not good enough to be posting about the Holy Spirit” thought came up and I thought it was true. The Holy Spirit is God anyways and even when you think you’ve reached the highest of heights with God, you find out there are still higher heights. The fact that I had been having chronic forgetfulness syndrome did not help. One minute I’m reading about the Holy Spirit, the next I don’t remember what I read so I was like why even bother writing a post when you’ll forget what you’re going to type anyways. All this was happening and I felt really down. I stopped reading my bible and even fell ill.

On Sunday, in church during bible study, we were discussing and then 2 Tim. 1:7 came up and the Holy Spirit showed me that I had been given a sound mind and a sound mind would not forget things the way I was forgetting. Another person brought up the bible verse that says we war against principalities and powers as believers and I realized I had let the devil mess with me. So I did a little check that I learnt from Heather Lindsey. When I got home, I checked to see if the voice was from God, me or the devil. I knew I was not good enough that is why I told God that all content for Phos will come from Him. I was not going to type of my own accord, I’ll just be the typer and God had assured me that His grace was sufficient for me. From reading my bible, I got to know how God talks. God is not a condemning God and this was a voice of condemnation so I knew it was not God. How would God say you’re a chosen generation, a royal priesthood,a holy nation but then you’re not good enough babycakes. It didn’t sound like Him so I realized it was the devil and the devil is the father of all lies so I rebuked him and continued with the post (I slept off on Sunday and yesterday was a busy day that’s why it coming up today. Forgive me please).

The Holy Spirit helped me identify the root of what was happening. This has happened to me a number of times I won’t lie and then each time I’m quicker to know when the devil is messing with me. Walking with the Holy Spirit is such a beautiful thing. The hardest part of it is getting to know the voice of God and that’s by reading the bible, praying, fasting, basically spending time with God. The Holy Spirit has helped me to get over a crush, to get over being cheated of something that was mine (not relationship cheating ooo but I’m sure getting over that is in His job description too), helped me to reply some people in a respectful manner when it was like they deserved lashing out. The Holy Spirit has helped me to fall in love with reading the word, helped me to pray, helped me when I’m working – I was making a bag and the bag did not come out right. I didn’t know why then the Holy Spirit revealed to me that the measurement was not accurate. He showed me how God was always particular about measurements in the Bible. The Holy Spirit is an amazing Spirit and I pray you build your relationship with Him. Even if you already have one, I pray you move to higher heights IJN. Amen.

Share with me some of your experiences with the Holy Spirit. Do you guys have in house jokes? What do you two get up to? I know some people that do dates. I don’t really like going out so we netflix and praise. I’d love to hear from you!

P.s: The header image for this post is a floating bible because of the word “spirit”. Good joke? What picture do you think best describes the Holy Spirit. I’m thinking a happy person? Good?

1 Corinthians 7

Happy Valentines day Phos fam!! In the spirit of Valentine and showing love to your partner, I decided to drop this chapter from the Bible for you to digest. It talks about marriage principles and makes you think about whether to remain single or not and Paul had a very valid point on why we shouldn’t get married. Tell me what you guys think in the comments. 

Now, getting down to the questions you asked in your letter to me. First, Is it a good thing to have sexual relations? Certainly—but only within a certain context. It’s good for a man to have a wife, and for a woman to have a husband. Sexual drives are strong, but marriage is strong enough to contain them and provide for a balanced and fulfilling sexual life in a world of sexual disorder. The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to “stand up for your rights.” Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out. Abstaining from sex is permissible for a period of time if you both agree to it, and if it’s for the purposes of prayer and fasting—but only for such times. Then come back together again. Satan has an ingenious way of tempting us when we least expect it. I’m not, understand, commanding these periods of abstinence—only providing my best counsel if you should choose them. Sometimes I wish everyone were single like me—a simpler life in many ways! But celibacy is not for everyone any more than marriage is. God gives the gift of the single life to some, the gift of the married life to others. I do, though, tell the unmarried and widows that singleness might well be the best thing for them, as it has been for me. But if they can’t manage their desires and emotions, they should by all means go ahead and get married. The difficulties of marriage are preferable by far to a sexually tortured life as a single. And if you are married, stay married. This is the Master’s command, not mine. If a wife should leave her husband, she must either remain single or else come back and make things right with him. And a husband has no right to get rid of his wife. For the rest of you who are in mixed marriages—Christian married to non-Christian—we have no explicit command from the Master. So this is what you must do. If you are a man with a wife who is not a believer but who still wants to live with you, hold on to her. If you are a woman with a husband who is not a believer but he wants to live with you, hold on to him. The unbelieving husband shares to an extent in the holiness of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is likewise touched by the holiness of her husband. Otherwise, your children would be left out; as it is, they also are included in the spiritual purposes of God. On the other hand, if the unbelieving spouse walks out, you’ve got to let him or her go. You don’t have to hold on desperately. God has called us to make the best of it, as peacefully as we can. You never know, wife: The way you handle this might bring your husband not only back to you but to God. You never know, husband: The way you handle this might bring your wife not only back to you but to God. And don’t be wishing you were someplace else or with someone else. Where you are right now is God’s place for you. Live and obey and love and believe right there. God, not your marital status, defines your life. Don’t think I’m being harder on you than on the others. I give this same counsel in all the churches.




The Master did not give explicit direction regarding virgins, but as one much experienced in the mercy of the Master and loyal to him all the way, you can trust my counsel. Because of the current pressures on us from all sides, I think it would probably be best to stay just as you are. Are you married? Stay married. Are you unmarried? Don’t get married. But there’s certainly no sin in getting married, whether you’re a virgin or not. All I am saying is that when you marry, you take on additional stress in an already stressful time, and I want to spare you if possible. I do want to point out, friends, that time is of the essence. There is no time to waste, so don’t complicate your lives unnecessarily. Keep it simple—in marriage, grief, joy, whatever. Even in ordinary things—your daily routines of shopping, and so on. Deal as sparingly as possible with the things the world thrusts on you. This world as you see it is on its way out. I want you to live as free of complications as possible. When you’re unmarried, you’re free to concentrate on simply pleasing the Master. Marriage involves you in all the nuts and bolts of domestic life and in wanting to please your spouse, leading to so many more demands on your attention. The time and energy that married people spend on caring for and nurturing each other, the unmarried can spend in becoming whole and holy instruments of God. I’m trying to be helpful and make it as easy as possible for you, not make things harder. All I want is for you to be able to develop a way of life in which you can spend plenty of time together with the Master without a lot of distractions. If a man has a woman friend to whom he is loyal but never intended to marry, having decided to serve God as a “single,” and then changes his mind, deciding he should marry her, he should go ahead and marry. It’s no sin; it’s not even a “step down” from celibacy, as some say. On the other hand, if a man is comfortable in his decision for a single life in service to God and it’s entirely his own conviction and not imposed on him by others, he ought to stick with it. Marriage is spiritually and morally right and not inferior to singleness in any way, although as I indicated earlier, because of the times we live in, I do have pastoral reasons for encouraging singleness. A wife must stay with her husband as long as he lives. If he dies, she is free to marry anyone she chooses. She will, of course, want to marry a believer and have the blessing of the Master. By now you know that I think she’ll be better off staying single. The Master, in my opinion, thinks so, too.

1 Corinthians 7:1‭-‬17; 25-40 MSG

It was a long one, sorry about that. Paul addressed just about everyone here. Single, married (the different types of married), widowed, separated. I want to know what your thoughts on this passage are and whether you’re thinking of remaining single now so you can have more time fore God, after-all, He created us for His glory. And if you’re married, do you think you spend less time with God now?

I am single and still looking forward to getting married thank you very much. I however believe that every season we’re in should be maximized, used for the glory of God, which is what Paul was saying in case you didn’t get that, so I’m maximizing my singleness and when I get married I’ll maximize my marriage. I also would not want to have achieved so much in my relationship with God as a single woman and then have to take two steps backwards when I get married so I’ll rather stay single than settle (Lord you know my heart desire though 😭 ). For those who are unequally yoked, its hard and frustrating because the devil has room to attack your family, your first ministry, and its frustrating. I haven’t been through it but I understand. Just keep clinging to God, with Him, you’ll make it through and I believe prayer and fasting should be your best friends to ensure that your Holy Ghost booster is always full. The armor of God too should always be worn. That’s my own opinion. Let me hear your thoughts people.

BTW how are you spending your valentine’s day? I’m spending mine in the word and chilling today, some food and maybe netflix later (we have to find more series gospels).